It’s been said of Sensualism that “sensations and perception are the basic and most important form of true cognition“. So in one respect, feeling is the purpose of being. When your mind doesn’t interpret pain as something to avoid, it can be channeled into the most exquisite pleasure. The only true torment is being numb.
If you have tender sensibilities when it comes to the roles of men and women, you may find yourself being triggered at times. I do not assume that all women wish to be submissive or desire to enjoy pain at the hands of a dominant man. When I speak of women here, I am only referencing those who bestow a consensual gift of submission to a man.
I do not support any relationship that is truly abusive or unhealthy for those involved.